My favorite line from Dash & Lily’s Book of Dares is when Dash asks Lily:
“Do you like to be surprised or do you like to anticipate?”
I love it because it puts a positive spin on both opinions. I am a planner. When I was pregnant, I had to know whether we were having a boy or a girl. I don’t like to be surprised. I wanted to anticipate my son and plan for his arrival. I also hate yellow, so I wanted to make sure I didn’t get a bunch of “neutral” baby items at my shower. Funnily enough, Christopher’s favorite color is yellow.
I like to always know what’s going to happen. If I’m going to a dinner party, I prefer to know in advance what will be served for dinner. That’s partly because I’m a picky eater, but mostly because I just like to know and to anticipate. If I plan a meal out, I almost always look at the restaurant’s menu online first to make sure there is something I’ll like, or something that fits my crazy diet, but also so that I can know in advance what I’ll be eating. It just makes me feel better.
When I’m running errands or driving around with my family, I don’t like last minute additions to the agenda. My husband gets extremely annoyed by this, but he’s learned to deal with it over the years.
A surprise birthday party would be my worst nightmare. I hate surprises! I do appreciate gifts given without my knowledge of what they’ll be. I think it’s kind of dumb to have someone buy me exactly what I’ve asked for. But those are small surprises, and as long as they fit my tastes, they don’t really feel like surprises.
Jim is much more spontaneous. He likes me to plan things, but he really only asks what we’re doing one or two days beforehand. Sometimes he’ll ask sooner, but he usually doesn’t remember what I tell him anyway. I think it’s because he doesn’t need to know. He doesn’t need to anticipate the future the way I do.
Christopher, however, is like me. He is a total planner. The babysitter told us that when he met a new friend at the park the other night, he asked the boy what nights he goes there. He wanted to know if he could plan on playing with this new friend again, every Tuesday or Wednesday for example. A boy after my own heart. I love it!
So…Do you like to be surprised or do you like to anticipate?